Good day specially beloved of God.
We have been enjoying the insight from God from part 1 of this teaching and I trust that this will bless you even more.
Yesterday, we saw the need for certain strategic relationships in our lives for us to fulfil destiny.
Today, I will be touching a serious issue, stay glued to this, please.
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
The subject of friendship is a critical issue that we need to understand so that we will not lose good friends that God has strategically placed in our lives.
I personally feel the teaching of honour has either being overstretched or not balanced. For many of us young people, as soon as God begins to use us and we enter certain dimensions of grace and influence we automatically expect everyone to begin to honour you like your son or a mentee. This is not correct.
There is a space for friends in your life. They won’t run after you or bow before you like everyone. These are people you can chat with, play with, and be vulnerable with. They can make jest of you, look you in the face and tell you the truth. They might not necessarily have the same dimension of grace like you or even be popular like you but they are the friends that God has placed in your life.
They are with you not because you have grace but because they just love you. I call it a JONATHANMIC kind of relationship, like the friendship of David and Jonathan. These people won’t call you papa or treat you like the great MOG. This doesn’t mean they will dishonour you. In fact, GOOD FRIENDS MUST HONOUR EACH OTHER. It is not a boss to servant relationship, it is mutual.
The fact that they choose to serve you or help with some stuff doesn’t make them your subordinate. They are only there to help you, never change in your heart and begin to expect them to see you as father or mentor.
My best friend, Pastor Irewole Joe, has been with me before anyone knew me or called me Man of God. And even though we were already doing things for God, when you see Him serve in YMR, you will think he is one of my mentees. He will be running around to make things work, he will say, “P.Daniel, pls you are fasting go and rest. I am here. Everything will be in order.”
Kai! I asked him to come and lodge in the hotel and he said, “No, I need to monitor the hostel.” Yet, he is my best friend. IT WILL BE FOOLISH OF ME TO START SEEING HIM AS MAYBE MY MENTEE OR SON BECAUSE HE CHOOSES TO SERVE GOD WITH ME. I HONOUR HIM THAT SAME WAY TOO. IT IS NOT ONE-SIDED.
At a point, I was tempted to say I don’t need the friendship again and I wanted a friend that at least is a little more popular, but that was a temptation. Thank God, I didn’t miss it by discarding my best friend. When you have such men in your life, appreciate them.
It is not only in service. This man can confront me at any time and SAY, “P. DANIEL, I HONOUR GOD’S GRACE UPON YOUR LIFE BUT ON THIS YOU ARE VERY WRONG.” He does scold me and gives me wisdom when it is needed, and we call him elder because he is wiser than many of us.
YOU NEED GOD TO GIVE YOU GOOD AND SINCERE FRIENDS,
A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO SEES YOUR WEAKNESS AND DOESN’T LEAVE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE WEAK BUT STAYS WITH YOU AND WORKS ON YOU TO ENSURE YOU BECOME STRONG FROM YOUR PLACE OF WEAKNESS.
There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. this is a gift from God.
I have some other very very good friends. Although, I don’t have more than seven friends now, but you need friends. It is dangerous to run alone.
NEVER, I MEAN, NEVER THINK OF CONVERTING YOUR FRIENDS TO SONS AND MENTEES IN YOUR HEART.
I KNOW EVERYONE IS HONOURING YOU BUT YOU MUST GENUINELY HONOUR YOUR FRIENDS.
BE FRIENDLY TO THEM,
YOU CAN FORM BUSY FOR EVERYONE BUT FOR YOUR GENUINE FRIENDS, PLEASE CREATE TIME FOR THEM.
TRAVEL TO GO AND VISIT THEM. THEY MUST NOT BE THE ONLY ONE VISITING YOU.
THEY MUST NOT BE THE ONLY ONES SOWING SEED TO YOUR LIFE BECAUSE YOU CARRY GRACE, YOU TOO, SOW SEEDS INTO THEIR LIVES,
SPEND TIME TOGETHER, PRAY, TALK, GIST, EAT, AND ENSURE THERE IS A STRONG BOND.
VALUE THEM EVEN MORE THAN THEY VALUE YOU. ALWAYS LET THEM KNOW YOU VALUE THEM, SAY IT, SHOW IT, PRACTICE IT.
BE THERE FOR THEM.
WE THANK GOD FOR YOUR INFLUENCE BUT USE IT TO HELP YOUR FRIENDS, FOR EXAMPLE, LET’S IMAGINE DADDY GO’S BEST FRIEND MIGHT NOT AND IS NOT AS POPULAR AS HE IS, HOW WILL HE FEEL IF DADDY GO JUST SHOWS UP AT THE CHILD’S GRADUATION ON CAMPUS WITH ALL THE GRACE AND EVERYTHING, NOT TO PREACH JUST TO COME AND TAKE PICTURES AND EAT WITH THE FAMILY.
Value your relationships.
Let the honour be mutual.
By this, you won’t lose the gifts of God to your life.
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I will continue in part 6
I call you blessed
I see a burning generation